What Obstacles Are Stopping You From Prioritising Yourself?
Jun 11, 2018

In this month’s newsletter we explored the issues around why mums put everyone before themselves and we discussed a number of reasons why self-care is often at the bottom of our list. Today, we’re going to explore the obstacles that get in our way when we do realise that we deserve a little time because it’s only when we know what they are that we can tackle them.

A lack of planning

How many times do you decide that this week will be the week that you’ll finally make some time for you? It’s going to happen, you’re not sure when, you’ve just got to get x, y and z sorted first...and then it’s your time.

As the week progresses, a, b and c come along and fill your diary. Before you know it, the week has rolled on past and you’ve still not found a slot for you.

We all know how busy our lives are when we are mums. We can be great at adding the children’s activities and partner’s night out into the calendar, but never dream of planning in a slot for ourselves.

Not planning time for your self-care is a sure way to ensure it doesn’t happen!

Not wanting to ask for help

I’m going to hazard a guess that you’re not great at asking for help?

To be honest, I don’t know a mum who is entirely comfortable with this. But sometimes, we need to dig deep and realise that it benefits both us and those around us.

The resistance to asking for help can be for a number of different reasons. Often, we feel embarrassed in some way. We believe that everyone else is managing on their own. But the truth is, everyone needs help at some point and there really is nothing to be embarrassed about. The people that care about you will feel great that you’ve turned to them.

Sometimes though, it’s more about what we imagine others will think about us than what we think ourselves. There’s that sense (or maybe slight paranoia if you’ve not had a decent night’s sleep in the last 5 years!), that people will think we’re a rubbish mum. We imagine them secretly pointing at us and gossiping about our failure to “do it all”.

This really isn’t happening. And do you know what? If anyone acted in that way, remember it says far more about them than you. Whatever Instagram, facebook or other social media platform tells us, no one gets through motherhood unscathed!

Feeling lost

Finally, we’ve become so absorbed by motherhood that it’s quite possible that we’ve actually forgotten HOW to look after ourselves!

Our identity becomes consumed by the little people in our life and we forget who we were before becoming “mum”. It’s not unusual to look back on the things you used to do for your own relaxation and think they were perhaps frivolous.

You can be left feeling lost about what it is you could do to help you relax and feel good. But remember, there’s no harm in trying new things or simply doing nothing and enjoying a few moments of peace and quiet.

What’s important is that you start identifying the barriers that stop you taking time for you, because once you recognise them, you can start doing something about it!

And that’s exactly what we will be looking at in our next blog later this month.

For now, take a few minutes to answer this: What obstacles do you need to overcome to make yourself a higher priority?

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