Why is it that some people are more resilient than others? What might have caused your resilience to reduce? In this month's newsletter, we looked at why resilience is essential. But when we start to look at what can change how much resilience we have, then we can begin the journey to improving it. In this blog post, we're looking at three factors that can be at play.
1. Lack Of Support
Research has shown that one of the most important factors when it comes to resilience is social support. We all like to think that our friends and family will be there for us when we need them, but that isn't always the case.
Sadly, we can find ourselves turning to others only to be met with criticism. Sometimes, you might find that your network tries to shut down communication. This lack of support when you're having a difficult time hurts your resilience and consequently, your mental wellbeing.
To remain resilient, you must have people who will be supportive, who will listen to you and encourage you. That doesn't mean you need to end ties with less supportive family members – just know the right people to turn to when you need it!
2. Childhood Experiences
Much of how we behave today comes back to our childhood experiences and resilience is no different. For example, if you experienced some form of trauma when you were young, it's likely to have left you feeling less resilient. But that doesn't mean childhood should be entirely stress-free. Like much in life, it’s a careful balancing act.
As mums, we can find ourselves wanting to protect our children from every bump and knock life dishes out – it’s our instinct. However, stopping our children from experiencing any challenges means that they can’t learn how to deal with them. If their childhood is entirely free from stress, then they don't learn how to develop resilience. If your childhood experiences have left you with low levels of resilience, we'll cover how you can increase it in our next blog post.
For now, think about your children. While we must protect them from traumatic experiences, we also need to step back and let our children experience the world…however hard it might feel. Being an overprotective parent won't do your children any favours.
3. Feeling Helpless
It’s important in life and business that we accept the things we can’t control and focus on those we can. However, feeling helpless and as though we have no control or influence in our own lives can be damaging for our levels of resilience. That’s because we end up believing that there is nothing we can do to change things – that we just have to accept our fate.
For a whole variety of reasons, we might give away our control to others. Taking that back can be the first step in gaining more resilience.
If you find yourself with less resilience than you would like and you want some help in building it up, then just drop me a message to find out more about how I can support you.
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